"Hey did you hear about xyz? Her nikah has been called off, apparently she was having an affair with someone else."
"Did you see abc sitting in the cafe with that guy? She pretends to be so pious and look at her now dating. What a hypocrite."
"Oh my God! Oh my God! she was wearing a sleeveless in the party tonight. everyone was talking about her. she is so 'out' ."
such conversations form a major bulk of our everyday routine. If we brood over it then it's always the womenfolk engaging in such conversations and it's mostly about other females. Nobody wants to have such conversations
" You know abc has started taking a hijaab MashAllah. I feel so proud of her."
Nobody talks about these things
" xyz's kids have started going to the mosque for prayers and they have read half of the Quran already Alhumdulilah."
Nops all we have to talk about is the negative aspects. We dont want to know who is happily married they want to know who got divorced. We are not interested in knowing the sweet person she is we just want to find out if she is having an affair. we play the accusation game every single day of our lives. we wrongly blame people, defame them and accuse them without once thinking that we may be hurting the other person in the process. we seek pleasure in gossipping about the misery other people are facing in their lives. we see a girl sitting in a restaurant with a guy and immediately accuse her of being a hypocrite for being on a date while otherwise pretending to be so pious. we dont even give her the benefit of doubt that the guy might be her brother. even if he's not what right do we have to defame her and slander her? We disapprove then the right way would be to talk to her about it, and explain things in the light of Quran and Sunnah.
people are actually observant to the extent of scanning the girl's fingers for signs of a wedding ring and in absence of one, news of her being "out on a date" will be spread all over the circle. This may sound to melodramatic but it happens and we are so caught up in this web that we fail to notice it anymore.we are more concerned about what's happening in other's lives and that interest is usually not for a good cause. No No we intend to seek pleasure by gossipping about it and spreading it to whoever we get a chance to.
one should speak ass long as what comes out of the mouth is better than silence. the main reason behind these gossips is that the women in our society have nothing better to do. the Quran strictly condemns talking behind other's back and spreading rumours about them. If we dont agree with the actions of someone the maximum right we have is to voice our opinion to them and try to reform them. When the same gossip game is played for us we get infuriated. The Holy Prophet pbuh has said that do not desire for your brother/sister what you would not desire for your ownself.
At least men have this characteristic in them that they are not interested in gossipping about other's lives. A characteristic I have always respected and prayed that the women should adopt this habit as well. Realizing the presence of this evil trait in oneself is task half done. the remaining task is to deal with it and eradicate all possible remnants and signs of it from our personality.
if we want to talk about others then talk about good stuff, appreciate their good qualities behind their back, tell others about the joyous occasions taking place in their lives rather than spreading negativity all around us.
let's all start worrying about what's going to befall us, lets guard our actions and tongue, let's not hurt our brothers and sisters with our tongue. let's all take this pledge on this blessed day of the week- Friday.
Prophet Muhammad pbuh once asked: "Do you know what backbiting is?" His companions replied: "Allah and His Messenger know best." Prophet pbuh then said: "It is to say something about your brother that he would dislike." Someone asked: "But what if what is said is true?" The Messenger of Allah pbuh replied: "If what you say about him is true, then you have backbitten him, but if it is not true then you have slandered him." [Muslim]
Allaah states in the Quran (what means): "O you who have believed! Avoid much [negative] assumption. Indeed, some assumption is sin. And do not spy or backbite each other. Would one of you like to eat the flesh of his brother when dead? You would detest it. And fear Allaah; indeed, Allaah is Accepting of repentance and Merciful." [Quran 49:12]
After such strong words from our Lord even then if we fail to change our ways then now would be the crucial point to peek into our hearts, rattle and shake it and see if the heart is still alive or has it died. A dead heart cannot be a Momin's heart. May Allah guide us to the right path and forgive me and my brothers and sisters if we ever wronged a person, slandered him/her or gossiped about them. May Allah have mercy on us and keep us blessed. Ameen.
Jumma mubarak.
"Did you see abc sitting in the cafe with that guy? She pretends to be so pious and look at her now dating. What a hypocrite."
"Oh my God! Oh my God! she was wearing a sleeveless in the party tonight. everyone was talking about her. she is so 'out' ."
such conversations form a major bulk of our everyday routine. If we brood over it then it's always the womenfolk engaging in such conversations and it's mostly about other females. Nobody wants to have such conversations
" You know abc has started taking a hijaab MashAllah. I feel so proud of her."
Nobody talks about these things
" xyz's kids have started going to the mosque for prayers and they have read half of the Quran already Alhumdulilah."
Nops all we have to talk about is the negative aspects. We dont want to know who is happily married they want to know who got divorced. We are not interested in knowing the sweet person she is we just want to find out if she is having an affair. we play the accusation game every single day of our lives. we wrongly blame people, defame them and accuse them without once thinking that we may be hurting the other person in the process. we seek pleasure in gossipping about the misery other people are facing in their lives. we see a girl sitting in a restaurant with a guy and immediately accuse her of being a hypocrite for being on a date while otherwise pretending to be so pious. we dont even give her the benefit of doubt that the guy might be her brother. even if he's not what right do we have to defame her and slander her? We disapprove then the right way would be to talk to her about it, and explain things in the light of Quran and Sunnah.
people are actually observant to the extent of scanning the girl's fingers for signs of a wedding ring and in absence of one, news of her being "out on a date" will be spread all over the circle. This may sound to melodramatic but it happens and we are so caught up in this web that we fail to notice it anymore.we are more concerned about what's happening in other's lives and that interest is usually not for a good cause. No No we intend to seek pleasure by gossipping about it and spreading it to whoever we get a chance to.
one should speak ass long as what comes out of the mouth is better than silence. the main reason behind these gossips is that the women in our society have nothing better to do. the Quran strictly condemns talking behind other's back and spreading rumours about them. If we dont agree with the actions of someone the maximum right we have is to voice our opinion to them and try to reform them. When the same gossip game is played for us we get infuriated. The Holy Prophet pbuh has said that do not desire for your brother/sister what you would not desire for your ownself.
At least men have this characteristic in them that they are not interested in gossipping about other's lives. A characteristic I have always respected and prayed that the women should adopt this habit as well. Realizing the presence of this evil trait in oneself is task half done. the remaining task is to deal with it and eradicate all possible remnants and signs of it from our personality.
if we want to talk about others then talk about good stuff, appreciate their good qualities behind their back, tell others about the joyous occasions taking place in their lives rather than spreading negativity all around us.
let's all start worrying about what's going to befall us, lets guard our actions and tongue, let's not hurt our brothers and sisters with our tongue. let's all take this pledge on this blessed day of the week- Friday.
Prophet Muhammad pbuh once asked: "Do you know what backbiting is?" His companions replied: "Allah and His Messenger know best." Prophet pbuh then said: "It is to say something about your brother that he would dislike." Someone asked: "But what if what is said is true?" The Messenger of Allah pbuh replied: "If what you say about him is true, then you have backbitten him, but if it is not true then you have slandered him." [Muslim]
Allaah states in the Quran (what means): "O you who have believed! Avoid much [negative] assumption. Indeed, some assumption is sin. And do not spy or backbite each other. Would one of you like to eat the flesh of his brother when dead? You would detest it. And fear Allaah; indeed, Allaah is Accepting of repentance and Merciful." [Quran 49:12]
After such strong words from our Lord even then if we fail to change our ways then now would be the crucial point to peek into our hearts, rattle and shake it and see if the heart is still alive or has it died. A dead heart cannot be a Momin's heart. May Allah guide us to the right path and forgive me and my brothers and sisters if we ever wronged a person, slandered him/her or gossiped about them. May Allah have mercy on us and keep us blessed. Ameen.
Jumma mubarak.
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